THE POWER OF NOs

It is stated that we should be always  adaptable and agree with most people, but I have discovered that sometimes the NOs have great advantages. Why?

1. If you say always YES,  you are updating your agenda to  the agenda of others. 

This is the reason that it is very important to know what you want to get it and after, to do the most efforts to get them.  In order to get your results, it is vital to define a plan or agenda and try to follow it.

Example: When I left finantial audit, most of the job offers that I received were for Internal Audit, but I decided not to accept them, because it was not my area of interest and in fact, I was convinced that  I was not so much skilled for these jobs as other people were and that in fact,  I was more skilled  for other jobs. After I found a job more suitable for my skills and motivations. 

I think that the HR people were doing a very cold analysis and  sometimes the cold analysis is not the best analysis, because it does not consider the importance of the motivation and that most people does not decide always rationally his career and they do not know really what they want or for what they are skilled. 

2. When others says you NO to something, you will really know the value of this something and if it is really worthy to fight for that or it is better to give it up.

Example: Ten years ago my family, my friends  and my company bosses told me that it was stupid to leave a permanent job in a company in Spain to go other country to learn English. After I wanted to find a job and have a professional experience out of my country.

 Even there was some people that told me that I will not find a job not speaking English and that  speaking English was not something important for the life or the work. But  I knew that I had to do it and it is one of the most enriching experience of my life.

Winston Churchill said that sometimes the riskiest plan is the most secure plan. In the life, it is like that as well, but it is needed to be brave to recognise the way. Now in a context of companies reestructuration and globalisation, the English knowledge is key, then I took the right decision, but it was not so easy to see it 10 years ago. 

 But please, be prudent and careful, this is not a call for action without previous serious thinking. Really!. Select your NOs. If not, it could  be a complete disaster!.